Thursday, February 23, 2017

OLW Health: Emotional Vulnerability

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My plan for my OLW (One Little Word) was to take the first quarter of the year and strictly focus on my physical health. I was completely rocking it for the first month or so. I had a couple weeks of holding on to the back of the wagon desperately with my feet trailing in the ground as it tried to leave without me. Now I'm making a mighty effort and pulling myself back on.

As usual, I have gotten a little ahead of myself and decided to pick out a few books that could be helpful in jump-starting my mental health. I figured it wouldn't be a bad idea to start reading different books and theories on how to do this so when quarter two rolls around I would have an idea of what to work towards.

I did some googling for suggestions. Reserved several books from the library. The first one to become available was Rising Strong by Brene Brown. Essentially it's living with courage despite knowing that you're inevitably going to end up falling flat on your face along the way. And most likely more than once. It's about not kicking yourself, or others,while you're down've guessed it...rising strong.

The key to Rising Strong? Being vulnerable. Putting yourself out there. Not just physically but emotionally too. Risking your heart and having your feelings hurt and being disappointed and disappointing others. 

Wow! Could I have picked a book that targets my weak spot any better. I'll be honest, it's been a tough read. Like it hurts to read because it's so on target and the idea of letting down my walls is scary as heck. Tears of acknowledgment and fear and resistance and maybe a wee bit of panic type hurt.

One of the lessons I'm taking to heart is her use of the phrase, "The story I'm telling myself is..." when confronting myself and others. There are plenty of times when I have caught myself telling Ken, "You think I'm....". Yet if he tries to tell me how I'm feeling I get all up in arms because he doesn't get to tell me what I'm thinking! So, I'm going to try to incorporate this in to our communication and acknowledge that the story I'm telling myself may not be completely accurate but put it out there for discussion.

She also discusses letting go of the armor we have built up to protect ourselves from hurt. Some people lash out when they are hurt (the I'll hurt you back so we both hurt method) and some use numbness and armor (that's me) so they don't feel hurt. I'll be working on trusting others enough to risk expressing my feelings and risking them squashing them. Hopefully that won't be the case. 'Cause we're all in this big messy world together right?

Yikes! Okay, back to my physical health. Time to pack a healthy lunch and get some exercise in.

Thursday, February 9, 2017

Laundry Room Ideas

We have been in our house for over 15 years. Over time we have painted, styled and project-ed our way through most of the rooms.

However, there are two rooms that remain unfinished. One is a spare bedroom which has been dry-walled but never taped and mudded. It has turned into the kids TV room. They aren't too concerned with aesthetics so it's okay.

The other room is our laundry room. It is attached to a full bath (which is finished). Considering the amount of time we spend doing laundry it's kind of crazy that we haven't ever gotten around to finishing it. I'm not sure exactly what the plan is yet but I've been stalking Pinterest for ideas. I'm leaning heavily towards black tile for the floors. Here's a few that I'm really love. Links to the sources are beneath each photo.

What do think about black floors? I'm happy with how our black bathroom upstairs turned out upstairs so I think it could work.

Thursday, February 2, 2017

OLW Health: Quarter One

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As I posted in my One Little Word post earlier this month, I am focusing on HEAL this year. After working on living my word the past few weeks, I've decided to update that word to HEALTH. I think it better expresses my desire to establish a healthy way of living. It's a word with a future, not just a goal.

I'm breaking it down by quarter so I can strongly focus on one aspect at a time and build up to all around health. The first quarter will be focused on Physical Health.

Some of my first quarter goals for 2017:

  • Lose weight - I know, I know. So cliche. I've made a good start on this goal and am working on watching my calories and eating a well rounded meal. If you follow my Instagram you may have seen photos. It's pretty repetitive but at this point it's working for me and I'm okay with eating it. Generally, my lunch and dinner consist of a veggie (usually tomatoes), a small portion of fruit (strawberries or an apple), 3-4 oz of meat (steak, pork, chicken breast) and a light carb (Melba toast is my favorite). And the trick... journal it all. That way if you cheat and grab an extra snack you still feel accountable.
  • Pain management - I frequently hurt and ache. All over. My joints and muscles/tendons complain when I don't do enough and if I do too much. I know much of this is due to not doing enough to keep them limber and strong. In the past I have tried to start off working out as if I had never stopped. This usually ends in pulled muscles and more pain. This time around I'm going to build up my endurance. And I need to remember to stretch. 
  • Fatigue - Lastly, I'm working to rid myself of fatigue. I realize this might not be completely a physical goal. I'm certain some of it is mental/emotional (that's a different quarter). Step one though is to feed my body healthy foods and have healthy activities as a base. I'm already starting to feel more energetic most days. 
Ultimately, I am striving to make my body healthy and strong. And hey, I wouldn't mind feeling confident enough in my legs to comfortable wear shorts again. Get ready lunges, I'm coming for you. (Ick).

Have you set your one little word yet? If so, how are you planning to incorporate it into your life this year? Have you started?